Thursday, September 27, 2007
Monday, September 24, 2007
Sunday, September 23, 2007
9/23/07 Mel Arrives!
Left on Sunday 9/23 to met up with Mel in Tualatin near Portland. The kids were their usual fantastic selves about getting the RV ready to go. Sarah started cleaning getting ready for Mel’s visit and she inspired us all. The drive was uneventful; it was a straight five hours up the 5 freeway. We had lunch at a Thai restaurant halfway.
It was great to see Mel! The kids were very glad to see him, especially Dave. Mayim almost melted into a puddle of happiness at getting to see her private masseuse who knows all the perfect places to rub and scratch her. I was as happy as all three of them!
Sarah and I snuck out in the Maxx while Mel and Dave set up the RV and got giant diet cokes and ice creams from MacDonald’s. When we got back, Mel and Dave had made several attempts to get the RV parked in a position to get Direct TV. (Dave couldn’t wait to share “Mythbusters” with Mel. He’d saved a show where Jamie and Adam tested the myth about a small airplane that got cut up by a propeller.) To get the dome clear of the trees, they’d moved the RV to be parked face in and face out – however, they had to drive through the park to resituate.
Apparently, Mel “cut some corners” with the RV back end driving over some grass edges aggravating the park manager. The manager came over and met up with Naomi. She took him on and then he came to give the RV driver (Mel) a hard time… only, when he poked his head in the RV he saw me sitting in the driver’s seat. I’ve never seen anyone back peddle so quickly – after all if a woman was driving – what could you expect! He quickly added that if I needed help parking the RV I could ask for help at the office. After he left, our family laughed and laughed.
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Saturday, September 22, 2007
9/22/07 Kol Nidre With A Heavy Heart
Saturday was spent at the Urgent Care Center understanding the drug reaction, switching to new medications and marshalling my limited energy for that evening’s services in Ashland for Kol Nidre. I really wanted to attend but didn’t feel up to meeting anyone new.
We set near the back and watched the Ashland congregation get seated and greet one another, admire growing children and greeting friends. I felt lonely – I could only miss my friends at CBI. In my weakened state I needed their support, hugs and love. My heart was weeping as I missed my community. I used the last of my strength to stand for Kol Nidre. Without Mel to support me, rub my lower back, and give me strength, I felt drained of my resolve. I missed Marcia’s pacing of Kol Nidre and her beautiful voice.
We left at the Amidah … and didn’t go back the next day. Ironically, going to Ashland had been to worship for Kol Nidre/Yom Kippur. Dave fasted from Friday night sundown through lunch – his first fasting. I didn’t – I just rested and hoped I’d be better enough to drive to Portland the next day.
Then, just like a switch flipped, I turned the corner. The bright red rash started to diminish and the whites of my eyes changed back from their scary red color. I started to count the hours till I could see Mel and the excitement of “being with Dad” permeated the RV. It would be a long drive, 286 miles, but at it’s end, we knew Mel would be waiting.
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9/19 - 9/22/07 Desperately Ill and Scared -- Dark Times
Early on in Medford, I came down with a terrible, painful bladder infection so I went to an Urgent Care and got great treatment. One small detail – it didn’t appear from the test that I had a bladder infection. Had to explain about the recent gall bladder surgery 6 weeks previously; closing down the Orange house and living fulltime in the RV; and the nightmare cold aggravated by the lush green ferns and redwood trees. (I left out the Maccabi games opening ceremonies for 12,000 people.) Saying it out loud, it sounded a little over-the-top even to me!
Eventually, I left with five drugs: inhaler for the lingering Cough, antibiotics for possible giardia, cream for a yeast infection, pills that turn my urine orange to limit the bladder pain and antibiotics to clear up the bladder infection – Septra.
Two days later I was back. I was covered with a rash from head to toe. I felt like crap. I had been desperately sick the night before – I was achy, queasy and miserable. I felt so poorly that I wanted to check into a hotel.
Now there’s an unusual thought – at 1:00 in the morning how could I possibly believe a hotel would be more comforting than an RV? It was my second night awake at odd hours.
I spent my time in the scary dark reworking my life, analyzing my mistakes – and yes, concluding that the road trip was a stupid idea. I let in all the fear gremlins about the children getting hurt or dying, different critical parts breaking down on the RV, perhaps destroying my relationship with Mel by leaving him behind in OC 70% of the time and the unexpected death of those I care about. Even the dog made her way onto the worry list – what if she got lost?
My brain was filled with things so dark that I finally gave up and took a sleeping pill to stop myself scaring myself further. It was no surprise when I woke up to have this extreme red rash – even the whites of my eyes were red! All-in-all it was just a drug reaction – three days later I was back to my old self.
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Friday, September 21, 2007
Wednesday, September 19, 2007
Monday, September 17, 2007
Saturday, September 15, 2007
Friday, September 14, 2007
9/13 - 9/14/07 Rosh Hashanah
After the fun evening at the campout making matzah balls and soup for 150 people and the talent show late in the evening, the next morning was a push. Sarah felt terrible and really didn’t want to go to Rosh Hashanah services.
Because she is usually reluctant to go to synagogue, I overlooked her physical health and made her go. If she was well enough to hang with her Patrick Point friends hiking around in the dark, she was fit enough to go to services.
We arrived at the shul in Eureka and were about two hours into the service when Sarah decided that she was sick enough to forego both shul and the campout for that day. She experienced a swelling, almost to bursting, of emotion on the way home. She felt so badly she slept the afternoon away and slept soundly that night till 5:30 am. We read books together at dawn, both of us with our runny noses and coughing till it was time to get ready to head back to Eureka.
The second day’s services were fascinating. The experience was billed as a “contemplative service” and it was completely new for us. It started in a circle with introductions. The opening chant was led by the rabbi using a musical instrument like a mini piano with an accordion baffle while she sitting cross-legged on the bimah. Then there was 15 minutes of silent meditation. Apparently, I have not learned to sit quietly with an idea for two minutes, let alone fifteen. People stretched out on the floor, sat under their prayer shawls, sat yoga-like on cushions and meditated for 15 minutes. Then we learned a round that had sign language – our favorite part was the arm-waving motion for Hallelujah.
The group all went up on the bimah to make an alliyah and to watch a congregant read Torah. Then we discussed the portion and there was a great interpretation offered regarding the donkey Abraham saddled in the “Sacrifice of Isaac.” One scholar thinks that it is all the same donkey through the bible; another reference suggests that a donkey was the ten equivalent to an expensive car; we discussed Abraham trying to negotiate his way out of selecting Isaac… “but I have two sons.”
The service ended with announcements. They asked who wanted to take home flowers. Sarah offered to help the woman and was rewarded with a beautiful bouquet and lots of sunflowers.
We met the leader of the music – Marge Eiseman – who has the online radio station “Jewish Waves” from Baltimore. She is on a life journey too, having recently left her marriage following getting her twins off to college and the loss of her 12 yo a year and a half ago. She leaves her now 12 yo son behind with her husband, so her heart is still with him there. She is looking to find a way to support herself on-the-road. We agreed to meet up next week in Ashland.
Leaving the synagogue, we were all hungry and thirsty, but pleased with our morning of Jewish experience.
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Sunday, September 9, 2007
Saturday, September 8, 2007
9/8/07 Russian River/Cloverdale
Travelling from Morgan Hill to Russian River/Cloverdale was uneventful.
It was blissfully simple compared to the last drive in August starting in Oakland at 6:30 PM From Golden Gate Truck Center and accidentally going though downtown San Francisco and over the Golden Gate Bridge.
This time we went on the right freeways, over the San Rafael Bridge ($8.50), arrived in the daylight, dumped and backed into our space with no worries. Much nicer!
No sleep last night, I had to sleep sitting up due to the coughing. Took this morning at a slow pace, then went out to find apple farms. We started with a nice lunch in Healdsburg which included garlic, parmesan, and rosemary French fries and ended up in Sebastopol with 50 Gravenstein organic apples, two large containers of honey – orange and blackberry – and cranberry orange jelly. The fresh cider didn’t last through the evening.
Sarah and I took a long walk ending at the Russian River. Both she and Mayim had fun wading. She is teaching me how to be a ninja! J Tomorrow we go to Trinidad.
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Thursday, September 6, 2007
Tuesday, September 4, 2007
9/4/07 Morgan Hill (near Salinas and Gilroy)
Travel Day: I never sleep well the night before, but because I’d done so much middle-of-the night planning, I felt peaceful.
Took package for Mel to Fed Ex – he forgot his razor. Drove by 301 N. 6th for old times sake; later took the kids back to see my old Lompoc home with Dad and Scott.
Stopped after a few hours in Atascadero and had a giant lunch at Appleby’s. Dave’s lunch was comp’ed because there was a potato stem in his mashed potatoes. It was nice of the manager especially considering he ate every bite of the steak meal. Dessert was a Triple Chocolate Meltdown which Dave and Sarah finished in 14 seconds.
Got safely to Morgan Hill area, but overshot the road to the Thousand Trails. Argh! Drove into a winery, couldn’t find a pull through, so had to disconnect the Maxx and flip around.
Morgan Hill Thousand Trails is nice. We found an easy site and got set up. Sarah set the table using branches as a centerpiece and Dave made hamburgers. Sarah started coming down with Mel’s cold. I felt sorry for her since I’ve had it for two days. Let’s hope Dave doesn’t get it.
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Monday, September 3, 2007
Sunday, September 2, 2007
9/2/07 Lompoc at my Sister's -- Goodby to Mel
Bittersweet – taking Mel to the new train stop in Lompoc overlooking the coastal views of VAFB from my childhood. Train was on time – I held it together till Mel got on the train. Seeing his face crunch up into tears is a memory I’ll always have. I lost it walking to the car. I saw Lompoc murals that I’d never seen before – but through tears.
Couldn’t go back to sleep; worked to find the “lost” keys. Ironically, no keys had been lost, they had all been put away and were in their correct locations. Even Mel’s keys had been found in his travel kit. I must have been operating on unpacking overload in my exhaustion yesterday.
Went to Kathleen’s. Tim took two days off from the “crush” and Don and Karen were still there. Sorted and labeled my jewelry – a project long overdue. The parents will take it back to Mel for the safe deposit box.
Learned how to play dominos with “trains.” Great fun! Learned about the wine making process from Tim and his strategy for the “Trivia” class that he leads in Santa Barbara – I agree with Kathleen, he should be on a game show – he knows the most amazing stuff!
Sarah and Sienna had a great day. Sarah felt so comfortable that she stayed overnight.
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Saturday, September 1, 2007
9/1/07 Leaving Orange County
Wednesday, Thursday, Friday were hottest days of year. (Remember how hot it was for the Villa Park move? How do I manage to pack during heat waves?) Today, Saturday morning is noticeably cooler.
Remember how I told people we were leaving between 10:30-11:30? What optimism! Dawn arrived on a partially packed RV. 65% of the outside was finished – 10% of the inside. However, the work in the not-quite-dark driveway the night before paid off. I was able to fly through the remaining boxes. Dedicating a compartment in the RV to sports equipment was genius!
It was wonderful to see Nancy. What a trooper, she’s as tired as I am – plus she brought coffees!
Laundry at the Laundromat – everything worked perfectly except Dave’s understanding of dryers. I picked him and the laundry up, went up the hill to find bags full of wet clothes. We went back and luckily found plenty of empty dryers. Then Sharman and Susan showed up help us speed fold everything. Susan gave me a human zapper as a going away present with a funny card.
Thank God for Mel offering to drive to Lompoc. To get out of Orange, I finished packing the outside and stacked the boxes in the bedroom. We drove away around 2:00 pm finding mostly light traffic for a holiday weekend. There was a space for us at the Elks and Kathleen, Don and Karen were waiting dinner and champagne for us!
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